Step #1: Baseline Behavior
A lot of you guys have probably been baselining people for years without even realizing it. When you spend time with people, we take note—consciously or unconsciously—of their mannerisms, their speech patters, their good and bad habits. We know, for example, that it’s hard to expect to be on time on people who are always late. We know that it’s not a good idea to dismiss it when a calm, even-tempered person raises her voice in a conversation—the person may only do so when he or she has a serious concern or disagreement, and his or her point is usually valid. We know that some friend of ours has a nervous tic that sometimes make them stutter.
We have baselined them all, so we know how they act in normal circumstances. Since you’re already familiar with how they behave when they’re not lying, it should be an easy time to spotting unusual facial, verbal, or behavioral clues they might display when they are lying. We also know that they have habits that can sometimes look like clues to deception—like the nervous tic—but that is just a part of their ordinary behavior.
Are you sick and tired of being dateless? Do you sit at home week after week while your friends are out on dates? Are you surrounded by people in relationships? It’s time to get out there and meet someone for yourself! Here are 10 tips on how to meet people:
1. Get out. You will never meet anyone if you sit at home alone. No one is coming to knock on your door to meet you. You need to get out of the house and surround yourself with other human beings if you ever hope to meet someone.
2. Practice makes perfect. If you’re shy it can seem daunting to start chatting up strangers and trying to meet someone, let alone asking someone out. Start practicing your social skills by talking to everyone. The cashier while you’re shopping, the bus driver, the lady in line behind you at the store, etc. If you make a habit of engaging strangers in conversation in low-pressure situations, you’ll get used to doing it and be a pro at it by the time you want to talk to someone that you want to meet.
3. Reach out. Let your friends and acquaintances know that you’re ready to meet someone. Ask them to set you up. They know you well so they can pair you with other people that they think you’ll be a good match with.
Relationships tend to move from one stage to the next without us being aware of it. One minute you’re nervous and excited to see the other person and before you know it you’re acting like an old married couple. Here are the stages of a relationship:
1. Courtship. This is the wooing stage where you try to win each other’s affections and are trying to impress each other. You aren’t officially a couple yet and you’re both determining whether or not you like each other. The courtship phase is fun and exciting but can also be stressful and nerve-wracking as you try to impress each other and aren’t secure in knowing the other’s feelings towards you.
2. Honeymoon. The honeymoon phase takes place when you’ve settled into a relationship and have the comfort in knowing that you both like each other and want to be together, but it’s still early enough that you’re having fun and enjoying every moment together.
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